Dating Your Best Friend's X

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by TheLeslieThing (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Monday, 10-Jul-2006 20:37:12

Hi you guys,
I was wondering. Have any of you ever tried to date your best friend's x boyfriend or girlfriend? How did he/she feel about it? I allmost dated my bestfriend's X boyfriend, but I asked her about it to see how she would feel if I did. I didn't date him because I didn't want to see her hurt when she saw us together. If you have dated your best friend's X, did you talk to him/her before you did? If you've been in a situation like this, comment.

Leslie

Post 2 by nikos (English words from a Greek thinking brain) on Monday, 10-Jul-2006 20:53:01

Another very simmilar subject was created a few days ago with tittle how long would you wait and my answer is there. But in briefe i said i would only date my best friend's ex if my friend had a new girlfriend. If he was single no way. But fortunately it never happened to me.

Post 3 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Monday, 10-Jul-2006 23:11:45

NO I dont' think I have dated my best friend's x, however, I am very close friends with my best friends x, and well, who kknow what might happen from it. I can see how people may think it's wrong, but if you truly like each other should you really not date them just cuz they are your friend's x?

Post 4 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Tuesday, 11-Jul-2006 3:16:10

I've never been in this situation and hope never to be. I wouldn't want to see my friend hurt, especially if she and her ex broke up and it wasn't it her idea.

but yes, if I thought the relationship would last and wouldn't be one of those one month crushes, I'd go for it. You may loose a friend though. Guess you have to choose between the two if you're serious about dating the ex

Post 5 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Tuesday, 11-Jul-2006 7:38:34

Briefly and it didn't last very long due to my unease at being found out.

Post 6 by chocolab (move over school!) on Monday, 07-Aug-2006 1:29:55

Hi Leslie. Sorry if I messed up your name, I bet i did. I wouldn't date a friend's ex, it's just not worth hearing either the bad, oh he was such a jerk, or the so did he make you... Basically, I'd rather keep the friend,then go for a little romp in the sack.

Post 7 by Rune Knight (Ancient Demon - Darkness will always conquer Light!) on Monday, 07-Aug-2006 3:45:51

Well as far as dating my best friend's X, it's safe to say it won't happen because I don't wish go behind their back and hurt them like that. Even if my best friend said it was okay that i could date his X, I still wouldn't got for it. Reason is because it takes awhile to develope a lifetime friendship with someone and that's a relationship you can't afford to lose over something like that. Besides there are plenty of fish in the sea and if your a loyal to your so-called best friend then you'd do the right thing.

Post 8 by UnknownQuantity (Account disabled) on Monday, 07-Aug-2006 7:08:17

I wouldn't date a best friend's ex unless she was cool with it. It's not worth losing a friendship over, imo.

Post 9 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 07-Aug-2006 10:14:52

i wouldn't do it, cuz i value friendship more than that.

Post 10 by Preciosa (The precious one and her littledog too.) on Monday, 07-Aug-2006 11:47:05

nope, definitely wouldn't do it even if the friend said it was ok because you just don't do that and ok, think practically with me for a second...in most cases, you become best friends with someone because of similarities in your personalities and your ability to relate with each other right? well, if that's the case, you have to factor in that these two people aren't together anymore and since the likeness of personalities is there between you and your friend, don't you think your relationship with the ex would have slim chances of surviving?
long story short, don't do it.

Post 11 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Monday, 07-Aug-2006 11:53:37

Depends on how hot the x is, and how much mony they have to buy you nice things.

Post 12 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Wednesday, 09-Aug-2006 14:43:50

This has happened to us before, but nothing was hurt because well, she was on the phone with me when he asked me out, and my friend and I just both kind of laughed about it because we saw it coming, and since the relationship wasn't serious between him and her and they only dated for less than a month she was pretty fine with it as far as I know. I think it all depends on what happened, what caused them to break up, if there were any hard feelings or memories, you know? If it would in any way hurt one of my friends, I wouldn't do it if I could help it, but I also don't think that if two people are seriously in love they shouldn't date just because of that.

Post 13 by Resonant (Find me alive.) on Thursday, 10-Aug-2006 2:02:45

Pretty sure I wouldn't, for all the reasons you lot already said, but these things are so subjective. How good a friend? How serious was your friend about the relationship? How serious are you about it? Is it a recent thing or are they ancient history? I still think it's probably a bad idea, even if the friend gives their blessing, but stranger things have happened and worked out alright.

Post 14 by Marissapc2010 (Zone BBS is my Life) on Thursday, 10-Aug-2006 11:43:07

Well, If the friend says I should. Or its ok. I Might. But, I'd really have to think about it, and Really like the person. I wouldn't wanna looze a good friend because of that. Its not worth it.